{"id":10238,"date":"2023-05-05T15:50:52","date_gmt":"2023-05-05T07:50:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/?p=10238"},"modified":"2025-07-21T16:41:11","modified_gmt":"2025-07-21T15:41:11","slug":"meditation-and-sex-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/blog\/meditation-and-sex-life\/","title":{"rendered":"5 benefits of sexual meditations for ultimate pleasure"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Do you feel like something\u2019s missing from your sex life? Sure, you can add toys and try out different positions. However, there may just be a better way to amp up your sexual energy and connect more deeply with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s called sexual meditation.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wha\u2014<\/em>? Sex and meditation? It\u2019s something that\u2019s not often put together in the same sentence. But according to Emily Fletcher<\/strong>, founder of Ziva Meditation, this powerful tool can help you enhance your sex life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cI think that, secretly, we think, \u2018Well, I shouldn\u2019t be thinking about sex if I\u2019m meditating<\/em>,\u2019\u201d she says at Mindvalley\u2019s A-Fest 2015 in Pula, Croatia. But letting go of this belief can open the gates to mind-blowing intimacy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is sexual meditation?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Sexual meditation isn\u2019t some kinky, weird ritual. It\u2019s simply a technique that involves mindfulness, mantras, and visualization. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Meditation<\/a> and your sex life are inextricably entwined. The more you start meditating, the more you\u2019ll start accessing the bliss within. And then you\u2019ll have more of it to give to your partner and your fulfillment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s quite contrary to common belief, as Emily points out in her stage talk. She explains that \u201cthe number one misconception about meditation is that we think that we should be able to give our minds a command to stop, which is totally impossible<\/em>.” The mind, just like the heart, functions involuntarily.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sexual vs. tantric vs. orgasmic meditation<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cSexual,\u201d \u201ctantric,\u201d and \u201corgasmic\u201d\u2014they\u2019re all part of the sexual vocabulary. However, when it comes to meditation, there are differences.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s a side-by-side comparison of the three:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

<\/td>Sexual Meditation<\/strong><\/td>Tantric Meditation<\/strong><\/td>Orgasmic Meditation<\/strong><\/td><\/tr>
Focus<\/strong><\/td>Sexual energy<\/a><\/td>Spiritual energy<\/td>Sensual pleasure<\/td><\/tr>
Goal<\/strong><\/td>Enhancing sex life<\/td>Spiritual growth<\/td>Connection<\/td><\/tr>
Technique<\/strong><\/td>Mindfulness<\/td>Breathing exercises<\/td>Light touch<\/td><\/tr>
Benefits<\/strong><\/td>Improves sex life<\/td>Spiritual growth<\/td>More intimacy<\/td><\/tr>
Popular Programs on Mindvalley<\/strong><\/td>The M Word<\/em> with Emily Fletcher<\/td>Tantra Touch<\/em> with the late Psalm Isadora<\/a><\/td>Waves of Pleasure<\/em> with Bibi Brzozka<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

All three meditations can help with your sexual life in different ways. As Emily says, \u201cIf meditation can give you rest that is five times deeper than sleep, you\u2019re going to be more awake, you\u2019re going to have more energy to get it on<\/em>.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But with sexual meditation, specifically, it can absolutely awaken your inner sex goddess<\/a> (or god\u2014whichever you identify with).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5 benefits of sexual meditation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Before you dismiss this as another new-age fad, know that there are a number of benefits to sexual meditation practice. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

For a closer look, here are five of them, all backed up by science:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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  1. Increased sexual energy.<\/strong> Mindfulness and sex help increase your desire and improve your function. Research<\/a> has shown that meditation can shift your libido into overdrive.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  2. Improved focus and concentration.<\/strong> It\u2019s well known that meditation can improve your cognitive abilities<\/a> as well as your attention span. So when you apply it to sexual activity, it\u2019ll allow you to be in the present moment, which will enhance your sexual experience.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  3. Reduced anxiety and stress.<\/strong> One meta-analysis<\/a> found that mindfulness-based therapies can help reduce symptoms of anxiety and depression. So with less stress, it\u2019s likely your sexual function and quality of life will improve as a result.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
  4. Enhanced emotional connection.<\/strong> If you\u2019re looking for a deeper emotional connection with your partner, sexual meditation may just be the key. It helps with feelings of intimacy and bonding<\/a>. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
  5. Improved physical sensation.<\/strong> With meditation comes greater body awareness, sexual satisfaction, and sexual functioning, according to one study<\/a>. Simply put, it can help you have a more positive relationship with your body.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

    With more and more research on the topic, there are so many more benefits being found. So it may just be worth exploring as a way to take your sex life to the next level.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    How to practice sexual meditation<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

    Remember, the goal of sexual meditation isn\u2019t about achieving orgasm or having the \u201cperfect\u201d sexual experience (although it can result in them!). It\u2019s not an erotic massage, after all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    On the contrary, this is more of a mindfulness meditation<\/a> where you\u2019re fully present and connected with your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So how can you get into this practice? In The M Word<\/em> program on Mindvalley, the meditation expert shares two things to do:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    1. Balancing breath<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

    If you\u2019ve ever done any breathing exercises, you\u2019ll know that they help calm the mind and bring attention to the present. And according to Emily, it\u2019s \u201ca beautiful way to balance your feminine and masculine energy<\/a><\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

    So with sexual meditation techniques<\/a>, the first is to focus on your breathing:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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    1. Sit comfortably, ideally with your back supported and your head free. <\/li>\n\n\n\n
    2. Using your thumb, close your right nostril and exhale through your left.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    3. Then inhale through your left nostril.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    4. Using your ring finger, close your left nostril and exhale through your right.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    5. Then inhale through your right nostril.<\/li>\n\n\n\n
    6. Repeat steps two to five a few more times.<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n\n\n\n

      \u201cAs you inhale, imagine that this breath and this energy are coming in through the base of the spine<\/em>,\u201d Emily advises. She adds that as your lungs fill with oxygen, imagine the breath and energy traveling up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      And when you switch sides, imagine sending them right out through the middle of your forehead, allowing for a beautiful flow of energy.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      2. Guided visualization<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      Once you\u2019ve got your breathing down, it\u2019s all about visualization. Emily suggests imagining \u201cthe most amazing sex you\u2019ve ever had in your whole life<\/em>.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      It doesn\u2019t necessarily have to be one encounter, but it could be a combination of what you\u2019ve had before. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      One thing to keep in mind, though, is to let go of any embarrassment, shame, or guilt that you might have about it. And according to the founder of Ziva Meditation, sexual energy is a normal human experience. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

      \u201cIf [it\u2019s] entered into consciously and if the energetic exchange is generous and kind<\/em>,\u201d she adds, <\/em>\u201cit can be a beautiful awakening of internal divinity<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      3 Sexual Meditations on the Mindvalley App<\/a><\/h2>\n\n\n\n

      So where can you find sexual energy meditation that you can use from the comfort of your own home? Mindvalley is a great place to go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      As part of the app, there are some of the best guided meditations<\/a> out there, including sexual ones. And here are three of them you can check out:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      1. Preparing for Sensual Experiences | Emily Fletcher<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      \u201cEven if you don\u2019t have a date planned or if you don\u2019t have some sexy time scheduled in, I would go ahead and do the exercise<\/em>,\u201d Emily suggests. This meditation allows you to get the hang of it so that you can use it when the opportunity arises.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

      Enhance this experience:<\/strong> Play the meditation with solfeggio frequencies, which are specific sound tones that help with various aspects of your body’s and mind’s health. One frequency you can play it at is 432 Hz, which helps your body de-stress. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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      Preparing for Sensual Experiences, a sexual meditation by Emily Fletcher<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

      2. Sexual Power | Natalia Sloma<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

      As the name suggests, this meditation was designed to help you embrace your sexual power. Guided by Natalia Sloma, founder of Zentra<\/a>, it\u2019ll help you:<\/p>\n\n\n\n