{"id":10290,"date":"2022-11-29T12:08:35","date_gmt":"2022-11-29T04:08:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/?p=10290"},"modified":"2025-06-23T04:00:19","modified_gmt":"2025-06-23T03:00:19","slug":"body-language-attraction","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/blog\/body-language-attraction\/","title":{"rendered":"Body language attraction: 7 secrets reveal who’s crushing hard"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

There\u2019s a language of love that goes beyond words, gifts, and acts of kindness. It\u2019s the most effective way to express signs of infatuation, and it\u2019s called body language.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s something we all do, whether intentionally or unintentionally. But picking up on the subtle signals of body language attraction<\/strong> can make or break your romantic game.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7 most common signs of attraction<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

The thing is, the body has a lot to say. More than the mouth, it seems. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The way the body talks is \u201can outward reflection of your emotional condition,<\/em>\u201d according to Allan Pease<\/strong>, also known as \u201cMr. Body Language,\u201d in an interview with Vishen, founder of Mindvalley. \u201cIt shows how you\u2019re feeling\u2014you\u2019re happy, sad, angry, holding back, telling the truth, lying, likely to say \u2018yes\u2019…<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In fact, only 7% of communication is verbal. The rest is nonverbal\u2014tone of voice (38%) and body language (55%)<\/a>. This is relevant for all \u201cships\u201d\u2014kinships, friendships, partnerships, fellowships, and even companionships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

So when you put yourself out there in the dating world, there are signs of attraction you can look out for. Here are some common ones shared by the body language experts at Mindvalley:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Positioning of the head<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Do you ever catch yourself tilting your head when someone\u2019s talking to you? No, it\u2019s not a sign of being socially awkward<\/a>. It just so happens that it\u2019s the body\u2019s way of showing that you\u2019re receptive to what the other person is saying.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, the head tilt is one position of body language. According to Allan, who\u2019s also the co-trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Mastering Body Language: Truth, Lies, Love & Power<\/strong><\/em> program, there are two more: head up and head down.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Head up exposes the throat, indicating they\u2019re unafraid of any danger. Allan adds, \u201cThe higher it goes, the more authoritative, the more self-confident, even arrogant the person who\u2019s using it is.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the other hand, when the head goes down is to protect the throat from a frontal attack. He explains, \u201cWhen people are feeling intimidated, threatening, disapproving of what you\u2019re saying, they\u2019ll put their heads down.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Head nods<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Different cultures have different ways of saying \u201cyes.\u201d However, the generally accepted way is the head nod.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s also a signal to show the person is interested. Moreover, when you see it as the receiver, it encourages you to keep talking. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There is a catch, though. According to Allan, the number of nods is crucial. \u201cThree head nods<\/em>\u201d\u2014meaning one, two, three nods in a row\u2014\u201cthey\u2019ll talk forever. Five head nods tell them to stop.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So knowing this sign is especially useful if you can help to see if the person is feeling your vibes. If you see your romantic interest nodding\u2014one, two, three, four, five\u2014away, it\u2019s time to wrap it up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Hands on hips<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Animals tend to make themselves look bigger when they\u2019re frightened, when they want to fight, or when they want to find love<\/a>. Humans do the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, we can\u2019t make our hair stand on end like dogs and apes. So our go-to pose is the \u201chands on hips.\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It helps a person be more noticeable to those around them, as Allan explains in his program. And if the person you\u2019re interested in is using this posture, you can use it as a way to mirror them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Mirroring<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This gesture is what it sounds like\u2014replicating the person\u2019s body movements. When we\u2019re interested in someone, we subconsciously mimic their body positioning and reflect on their posture. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

There are many ways we do this, like yawning, people jumping simultaneously at rock concerts, and even in sexual encounters (which might help when trying to overcome sexual anxiety<\/a>). On the darker side, mirroring<\/a> can also instigate angry mobs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Allan describes it as a way of bonding, getting accepted by others, and creating rapport. He adds, \u201cIt says, \u2018Look at me. I\u2019m the same as you.\u2019 And that\u2019s what people read.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mirroring occurs when one person feels a strong connection to another. Now, while this may indicate attraction, it can also indicate camaraderie and close kinship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Hands and arms gesture<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The hands and arms play a role in how people communicate, especially when you\u2019re trying to figure out whether your love interest is giving off signs of attraction. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

According to Linda Clemons\u00ae<\/strong>, body language expert and trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Body Language for Dating & Attraction<\/em> <\/strong>program, here\u2019s what they indicate:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Hands open, palms exposed:<\/strong> Truthfulness and authenticity.<\/td>Hands closed, palms hidden:<\/strong> Deception or hiding something.<\/td><\/tr>
Arms unfolded:<\/strong> Confident and open to receive.<\/td>Arms folded:<\/strong> Unapproachable or uninterested.<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

When the person you desire is speaking with their hands and arms, know that it\u2019s a show of romantic interest and an invitation in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Eye contact<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe eyes are the windows to the soul,<\/em>\u201d as the saying goes. And with good reason\u2014eye contact is a major love signal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201c[The eyes] allow you to be able to look at another human being and decide, in a primitive way if you will, if that person is going to be a friend or foe,<\/em>\u201d Linda explains. \u201cIt allows you to see the beauty, the integrity, the honesty of another individual.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Moreover, it triggers the autonomic nervous system to respond to emotions. And that causes the pupils to dilate.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In an average conversation, adults make eye contact between 30% and 60% of the time<\/a>, according to communications-analytics company Quantified Impressions in a Wall Street Journal<\/em> article. And to create a sense of emotional connection, it suggests extended eye contact up to 60% to 70% of the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Facial cues<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Most notably, one of the top signs of attraction is the ones people make with their faces. Why?  It\u2019s often the first glimpse we have of the other person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s to make an impact and influence during the initial impressions,<\/em>\u201d says Linda. They can display how a person feels and indicate their intentions, even in a crowded room.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What\u2019s incredible is that, with 43 different facial muscles, the face can make more than 10,000 expressions. These include smiling, laughing, gazing, flirting with the eyes, and even blushing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So when someone is looking at you, notice the facial cues. They could be sending messages like \u201cI\u2019m attracted to you<\/em>,\u201d \u201cI like you<\/em>,\u201d or \u201cCome hither<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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What are the signs of male attraction?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While there are common signs of attraction that apply to both males and females, there are some subtle cues that are used predominantly by the former. Here are a few of them:<\/p>\n\n\n\n