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Multiple orgasms are something like the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow\u2014they\u2019re legendary, but that doesn\u2019t mean we don\u2019t hope they exist. But unlike our lucky charm, hitting Pleasure Town, again and again, is<\/em> real. And so, how to have multiple orgasms is the<\/em> question.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The big O. La petite mort. Or the \u201cclimactic physiological state of heightened sexual excitement and gratification that is followed by relaxation of sexual tensions and the body\u2019s muscles<\/em>\u201d (if you\u2019re into scientific terms; thank you, Britannica).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Call it what you want, but the truth is, orgasms are beautiful. And the only thing better than an orgasm\u2026is having multiple ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What happens to your body during sex?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

When it comes to the sexual journey, your body won\u2019t go straight from zero to orgasm, just like\u2014snap!<\/em>\u2014that. Instead, it\u2019s a buildup with physical and emotional changes known as the sexual response cycle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUnderstanding how your body works, including what exactly is going on before, during, and after sex, is an important step on this pathway towards optimizing your biology,<\/em>\u201d says Dr. Amy Killen<\/strong>, anti-aging and regenerative medicine physician specializing in sexual medicine. \u201cIf you don\u2019t know how it currently works, how can you make it better?<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In her upcoming Quest on Mindvalley, The Science of Great Sex<\/em>, she goes into what makes sex great and how to reclaim your sexual power<\/a>, no matter your age. So if you\u2019re looking at how to have multiple orgasms, let\u2019s take a cue from the good doctor and look at what happens in the four phases of the sexual response cycle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 1: Arousal<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cTo feel aroused is to feel alive,<\/em>\u201d writes Fiona Thrust in the book, Naked and Sexual<\/em>. And with good reason: arousal, for some people, is a big part of getting mentally and physically ready for sex. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

In general, your heart starts a-thumping as your breath starts to quicken. You may notice blotches of redness on your skin, aptly known as \u2018sex flush.\u2019 Your nipples start to harden or erect as the blood flow increases to your genitals.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, for males, this is when your penis becomes erect. The testicles swell and the scrotum tightens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For females, your clitoris, the inner lips of your vagina, and the vaginal walls start to swell. The blood flow also helps increase the lubrication of the vagina and your breasts start to feel fuller.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Interestingly, sexual arousal<\/a> is a phase of interest with many researchers due to the differences it is between males (people with penises) and females (people with vaginas).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cEveryone is different and not everyone will experience all of the above,<\/em>\u201d says Dr. Killen. \u201cAnd, of course, how long it takes for these changes to occur is also quite variable.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 2: Plateau<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u2018Plateau\u2019 is kind of a misnomer, according to Dr. Killen. She explains that it\u2019s more of an arousal-building phase than a flat plateau.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So what happens here? Essentially, all the changes in the arousal phase get amped up \u2014 your breathing and heart rate continue to increase as well as tension in the muscles.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For males, the testicles withdraw up into the scrotum. And for females, the vagina continues to swell and the clitoris becomes incredibly sensitive.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 3: Orgasm<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Also known as \u2018climax,\u2019 this is the shortest phase of the four, often only lasting for seconds. But don\u2019t be fooled by the duration; there are still lots that happen during orgasm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your heart rate and breathing are at their highest, resulting in a rapid oxygen intake. Your muscles start to contract hard<\/em>\u2014from your genitals to your feet. And there is a sudden, forceful release of sexual tension.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIn folks with vaginas, vaginal muscles contract, and the uterus undergoes repeated contractions,<\/em>\u201d Dr. Killen explains. She adds that while males may have an easier time climaxing, those with a vagina often have longer orgasms or multiple ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Phase 4: Resolution<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Oh yes<\/em>, out goes the sexual and muscle tension as your body slowly goes back to its normal state. And it\u2019s replaced by a sense of well-being and, often, fatigue.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The resolution phase, for males, usually leads to something called a refractory period, where they typically need recovery time. That\u2019s not necessarily so for females, who, with learning how to have multiple orgasms, are able to return to the orgasm phase and experience the pleasure more than once.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So\u2026round two?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3 benefits of multiple orgasms<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

There are plenty of people touting the power of orgasms with good reason. It seems that the big O has quite a number of health benefits, so imagine when you\u2019re able to do it over and over again. It\u2019s like, orgasms are pleasure with<\/em> purpose.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The benefits of sex<\/a> are not confined to the bedroom. The effects of an active sex life spill over, and they infiltrate every little nook and cranny of our lives to make us happier and healthier.<\/p>\n\u2014 Dr. Amy Killen, trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s The Science of Great Sex<\/em> Quest<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Here are three (out of many) surprising benefits of multiple orgasms, backed by science:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Your brain releases dopamine and oxytocin<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

There\u2019s a reason you feel pleasure and a sense of bonding during intimacy, according to clinical psychologist Daniel Sher in an interview<\/a> with INSIDER<\/em>. It\u2019s because your brain releases dopamine, the \u2018feel good hormone,\u2019 and oxytocin, the \u2018love hormone,\u2019 which counters the effects of stress.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s the gist of the two:<\/p>\n\n\n\n