{"id":13249,"date":"2022-12-06T09:10:48","date_gmt":"2022-12-06T01:10:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/?p=13249"},"modified":"2025-01-27T23:17:45","modified_gmt":"2025-01-27T15:17:45","slug":"how-to-deal-with-rejection","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/blog\/how-to-deal-with-rejection\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Deal With Rejection: 10 Dos and Don’ts"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Rejection \u2014 the nine-letter word that can take us from rainbows and sunshine to utter devastation, just like *snap<\/em>* that. So what can you do in the face of dismissal? How can you learn how to deal with rejection?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good news is, there are ways. And this mini guide can help you navigate the complex emotion that comes with getting turned down. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s an inevitable part of life, but it\u2019s not the path to a dead-end road. Rather, it\u2019s an opportunity. All it needs is a shift in perspective.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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5 Dos on How to Deal With Rejection<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

For sure, getting turned down can be unpleasant, uncomfortable, and at times, downright miserable. But the truth is, it\u2019s part and parcel of our human experience and at some point or another, we have to learn to handle rejection.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So here are five dos to help you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Do acknowledge what\u2019s been said<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

When someone sends something your way that sounds an awful lot like criticism or insult, reply with: \u201cThank you for sharing that.<\/em>\u201d <\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBecause \u2018thank you for sharing that\u2019 is saying that’s your opinion,<\/em>\u201d says Marisa Peer<\/strong>, world-renowned therapist, in one of the lessons<\/a> on her Uncompromised Life<\/em> Quest on Mindvalley. \u201cYou’re allowed to have it but I’m allowed to not let it in.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, say you\u2019re at a job interview and the hiring manager is a narcissist<\/a>. They highlight your lack rather than seeing how you can fit into the company. One of the best ways how to deal with rejection from a job is by responding, \u201cThank you for sharing that.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You aren\u2019t voicing your agreement. Nor are you issuing an apolog<\/a>y. Instead, you\u2019re simply acknowledging what the other person has said.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Do ask them to repeat it again<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

This might sound counterintuitive because no one wants to be negged once, let alone twice \u2014 and voluntarily. However, according to Marisa, saying to the person, \u201cI missed that; would you say it again?<\/em>\u201d will often stop your would-be criticizer in their tracks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take dating, for instance. Disagreements and arguments are bound to happen in relationships. And if you find yourself in a situation where your partner is putting you down for something, say, \u201cI didn\u2019t get that. Could you repeat it?<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cUsually, they won’t say it again because they know that you’re going to be on them,<\/em>\u201d she explains. The more likely reaction will be a doubling back on their words as they backpedal to amend their criticism.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Do understand the power of \u201cyet\u201d<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

A three-letter word but packed with so much punch. \u201cYet\u201d (or \u201cnot now,\u201d as Jay Fantom prefers) is based on the idea that you\u2019re on a journey of self-evolution where learning never stops.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Take it from Jay, founder and host of The Story Box, who knows rejection like the back of his hand, having been turned down interviews for his podcast early on. However, with the power of \u201cyet,\u201d he\u2019s been able to get them on the show later on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let\u2019s look at college applications, for instance. Many of us dream of going to a certain school, but there\u2019s always that chance of not getting in. And \u201cyet\u201d is a great way to learn how to deal with college rejection \u2014 you may not get in now, but who knows, one day, you\u2019ll find yourself there for an entirely different (and perhaps, better) reason.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cBecause someone said \u2018no,\u2019 you got to turn it into a \u2018not now,\u2019<\/em>\u201d he says in an interview<\/a> on Selling With Love (previously known as Superhumans at Work, a Mindvalley Podcast). <\/p>\n\n\n\n

The power of \u201cyet\u201d is a subject extensively researched by psychologist Carol Dweck. In her TEDx talk (which you can watch below), she highlights that those who don\u2019t view the world in \u201cyet\u2019s\u201d see situations as tragic, catastrophic, and dead ends. However, those with the mindset of \u201cyet\u201d understand that they\u2019re on a learning curve, allowing them a path into their future.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The power of yet | Carol S Dweck | TEDxNorrk\u00f6ping – Video<\/em><\/a><\/h6>\n\n\n\n
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