{"id":13275,"date":"2025-01-09T09:02:55","date_gmt":"2025-01-09T01:02:55","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.mindvalley.com\/?p=13275"},"modified":"2026-04-17T13:27:40","modified_gmt":"2026-04-17T12:27:40","slug":"hearts-desire","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.mindvalley.com\/blog\/hearts-desire\/","title":{"rendered":"This 4-step formula will reveal your heart’s desire\u2014and change everything"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

You say yes to every project. Fill out the calendar. Hustle harder… Still, you feel that lingering emptiness. Must be a sign to push further\u2014right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what if the constant chasing is the reason you feel so disconnected? Jon and Missy Butcher<\/strong>, the creators of Lifebook, explain that true clarity comes when you stop living on autopilot and start aligning with your heart\u2019s desire<\/strong>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThe instant you choose to start living your life on your own terms<\/em>,\u201d says Jon, \u201cthat\u2019s when everything changes<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Because the reality is, life isn\u2019t about ticking boxes. It\u2019s tuning into what your heart actually longs for and daring to live from that<\/em> place.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What is a heart\u2019s true desire?<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Your heart\u2019s desire\u2014or dharma, as it\u2019s often called in spiritual traditions\u2014is that thing you really<\/em> want deep down, not just what looks good on paper or sounds impressive to others. It\u2019s the kind of love, purpose, or connection that makes you feel completely yourself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cWe all have different preferences, different instincts, different needs, and different desires<\/em>,\u201d Jon explains in his and Missy\u2019s program on Mindvalley, Lifebook<\/em>. \u201cAnd the road to the fulfillment of those desires is different for every single one of us<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Maybe it\u2019s building a life around creativity. Perhaps it\u2019s having soul-deep relationships. Or making a real difference. Or finally feeling at peace in your own skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whatever it may be for you, knowing your heart\u2019s desire clears up the need for guesswork or to ask that infamous question, \u201cWhat should I do with my life?<\/em><\/a>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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We all have different preferences, different instincts, different needs, and different desires. And the road to the fulfillment of those desires is different for every single one of us.<\/p>\n\u2014 Jon Butcher, trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Lifebook<\/em> program<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

The thing is, research shows that people who feel a bit lost in life tend to be less compassionate and more caught up in comparing themselves to others<\/a>. Which is exactly why figuring out your heart\u2019s desire matters.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you know, you feel more grounded, more energized, and way more <\/strong>you<\/em><\/strong> instead of just checking boxes to keep up with everyone else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Heart\u2019s desire in numerology<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

What drives you? What makes you feel fulfilled? And what kind of life feels most aligned with your true self? This is what your heart\u2019s desire number (also called the soul urge number) can help reveal.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

For example, if you\u2019re a 6, you might feel most fulfilled when nurturing family and relationships. Or if you\u2019re a 5, you might crave freedom and adventure. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s essentially a tool for self-awareness<\/a>\u2014one that helps you figure out why certain things resonate deeply while others leave you feeling disconnected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

How it\u2019s calculated<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

The heart\u2019s desire number is derived from the vowels (A, E, I, O, U) in your full birth name. Each vowel is assigned a number:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A = 1
E = 5
I = 9
O = 6
U = 3<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You add the values of the vowels together and reduce them to a single-digit number or a master number (11, 22). (Numbers 11 and 22 carry heightened spiritual energy, representing intuition, insight, and the potential for profound personal growth.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Now, what would that look like? Let\u2019s use Missy as an example:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Name: <\/strong>Missy Butcher
Vowels:<\/strong> I (9), U (3), E (5)
Total:<\/strong> 9 + 3 + 5 = 17
Break down 17 into its digits:<\/strong> 1 + 7 = 8<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

So Missy\u2019s number is 8… But what do the numbers even mean? Here\u2019s what each one reveals:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1<\/td>Independence, leadership, self-expression<\/td><\/tr>
2<\/td>Harmony, partnership, sensitivity<\/td><\/tr>
3<\/td>Creativity, joy, self-expression<\/td><\/tr>
4<\/td>Stability, discipline, hard work<\/td><\/tr>
5<\/td>Freedom, adventure, change<\/td><\/tr>
6<\/td>Love, family, responsibility<\/td><\/tr>
7<\/td>Wisdom, spirituality, introspection<\/td><\/tr>
8<\/td>Power, success, material abundance<\/td><\/tr>
9<\/td>Compassion<\/a>, humanitarianism, service<\/td><\/tr>
11<\/td>Intuition, spiritual insight, enlightenment<\/td><\/tr>
12<\/td>Master builder, visionary, global impact<\/td><\/tr><\/tbody><\/table><\/figure>\n\n\n\n

For Missy, it\u2019s all about power, success, and building a life that feels solid. It\u2019s a cue for her to lead with confidence while staying grounded in integrity and emotional balance.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the end of the day, your heart\u2019s desire number points to what\u2019s been quietly calling you all along. It\u2019s proof that the answers you\u2019re searching for have been with you the whole time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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How to know what your heart wants: a 4-step formula<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Most people drift through life or hit a midlife crisis<\/a> not because they\u2019re lazy but because they\u2019re overwhelmed. Endless distractions. Too many demands.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And often, it feels easier to stay on autopilot\u2014working hard, keeping up appearances, checking off milestones\u2014than to ask the bigger questions: What do I really want? What\u2019s driving me? Or what actually matters?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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The instant you choose to start living your life on your own terms, that\u2019s when everything changes.<\/p>\n\u2014 Jon Butcher, trainer of Mindvalley\u2019s Lifebook<\/em> program<\/cite><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Finding your heart\u2019s desire is about breaking out of that fog and figuring out what truly feels right for you, in all the 12 areas of life<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here\u2019s Jon and Missy\u2019s simple, guided process to help you start tuning in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Identify what you truly believe about your life<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

Before you can figure out what your heart really wants, you need to get clear on what you believe<\/em> about yourself and life itself. Because whether you realize it or not, those beliefs\u2014whether about success, relationships, health, or happiness\u2014are quietly steering the wheel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The thing is, not all of them actually serve you. Like, maybe you\u2019ve grown up thinking success equals long hours and burnout. Or that relationships are supposed to be complicated. Or that happiness is something you\u2019ll figure out \u201csomeday.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But what if those ideas aren\u2019t true for you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

A 2022 study found that people who actively explore their personal beliefs about what makes a fulfilling life tend to report higher life satisfaction and overall well-being<\/a>. In other words, clarity about what you hold to be true\u2014especially when they empower you\u2014can make a real difference in how aligned and fulfilled you feel.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

So, take a moment to reflect. What\u2019s your perception about success? About love? About personal growth?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIt\u2019s critical to know what you believe before you start thinking about what you want<\/em>,\u201d Jon explains. \u201cBecause your beliefs control your thoughts, your decisions, and your behaviors, and therefore, your destiny<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The goal here isn\u2019t to judge or filter but to get clear. Once you see these beliefs on paper, you can decide if they truly match the life you want\u2014or if it\u2019s time for an upgrade.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Get clear on what you really want<\/h3>\n\n\n\n

\u201cMost people have no destination in mind at all, no target to focus on and move toward<\/em>,\u201d Jon highlights. \u201cInstead, they wander aimlessly through their lives in all or most of the 12 categories, just floating like a piece of driftwood, tossed around wherever the tide of life happens to take them<\/em>.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But how do you actually get clear? Start with questions that go beyond the surface:<\/p>\n\n\n\n