At 41, when I called a friend to share my bold (and unreasonable!) intention to be engaged by my 42nd birthday, I was relieved that she didn’t laugh or tell me that a woman over 40 has a better chance of being hit by a bus than of finding a wonderful husband.
What she said however changed my life.
“Katherine, I will hold this intention with you if you give me permission to hold you accountable for being the woman you would need to be in order to manifest it.”
Gulp. That nudge by my wise friend was the start of what has now become the world-renowned Calling in “The One”® process.
Rather than run out to try to find love, my friend showed me it was more important to go within to discover and release all the barriers I had built against it.
Before then, I had so wanted love that it never occurred to me that I might actually be covertly working against it.
In finally looking within to discover myself as the source of my painful relational patterns, I began to clearly see the subtle yet pervasive ways I was unknowingly keeping it at bay.
That’s when I understood there’s a huge chasm between wanting love and being ready and available to create it.
And as I began to take responsibility at a whole new level for my misguided loyalties, deep-seated ambivalence, false beliefs and hidden agendas, I found myself becoming more open to love. By consciously releasing these hidden barriers to love, I became truly available to create a loving, committed, romantic partnership–for the first time ever.
I began each day with a specific practice that allowed me to align my life with the future I’d taken a stand to manifest. One by one, I identified and released hidden barriers I’d had for years yet was unaware of. Little by little, the inner work I was doing began shifting my external love life.
The whole process worked so unbelievably well that I found “The One” two months ahead of my 42nd birthday, we were married the next year, and the following year, I gave birth to our daughter.
